He’s getting it.
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This week we had parent teacher conferences. Sixth graders prepare power point presentations to show off all the things they are learning and accomplishing at school.
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They also have slides where they share about themselves and things they love, are interested in, and are important for them.
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He came to a slide that said, “The most important thing I want to do this year.”
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It could have been get good grades. It could have been win the spelling bee. It could have been to win fantasy football. It could have been to be the best pitcher on his baseball team. It could have been anything.
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His said: @dogood.bekind, make a difference.
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Of course, my momma heart swelled with pride for him. And I realized in that moment that he’s getting it.
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Earlier this year, I encouraged him to put a @dogood.bekind sticker on his binder. A daily reminder to @bethenicekid.
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To reach out to others. Make others feel included. To let kindness be his trademark. And he’s getting it.
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I look at this boy and can’t believe who he is becoming. When he was just little I felt prompted as a mother to make kindness and brotherly love something that embodies who he is. In some ways it comes so naturally to him. In others he’s making the effort. But he’s getting it.
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And he isn’t just getting it. He’s setting an example to those around him. I see his influence in our family when he helps when he doesn’t want to. When he plays with his little sister and loves on her. When he doesn’t even think twice about letting his little brother tag along. In his friend group when he thinks of others, let’s them choose, and includes everyone. In his young men’s group when he reaches out to those who might feel like they don’t fit in. To the widows in our neighborhood when he makes an effort to visit with them. On his baseball team, when he cheers them on and is happy for their successes.
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He’s getting it. Life is full of so many things that don’t matter. But it’s also full of so many things that do. He doesn’t know it but he’s building a legacy of friendship and kindness.
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Loving others, being the nice kid, truly will be his trademark. 💛
I’m heading to AZ tomorrow to speak at a conference. When I was saying goodnight to her tonight I asked her if she was going to miss me while I’m gone.
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“Yes momma, will you miss me while I’m still here?”
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It feels funny to admit, but I miss her even when she’s in the other room for too long. Or when she goes to school each day. She is my little sidekick. My little best friend. The biggest blessing I never knew I wanted. And so much more. She wears me out more than anyone in my life and yet I can’t get enough of her.
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I hope whether I’m there and she’s here or she’s there and I’m here that we will always miss each other and hurry to be back together. #mommasgirl #ilikemebetterwhenimwithyou #minime
Tomorrow I’m speaking at @pinnersconf!
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It’s been so fun this year speaking across the nation about technology and it’s affect on our families.
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My goal is always to make sure people walk away empowered with ideas to implement. There are so many presentations out there meant to scare us away from technology. I just don’t think that is the answer to this issue.
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We can’t learn and grow if we are scared. We can’t make a difference if we are scared. We can’t share important truths and messages if we are scared.
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What we need to be is prepared and vigilant and present in what is happening around us and how that affects the individual members of our family.
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Technology is not the problem. Social media is not the problem. Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook...they are not the problem.
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WE ARE THE PROBLEM!
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We live in a digital world and that isn’t going to change. We have to take responsibility and we have to prepare ourselves and our families. It isn’t technology that is going to ruin our lives or our families. But HOW we use it definitely could. But it all comes back to us. The choices we make and the habits we cultivate.
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A few weeks ago, I sat in a presentation about some of the darker sides of technology. I watched these mothers and their faces as they learned about things they had no idea were going on. The presentation was meant to terrify, which it did. But then that was it. No tips. No strategies. Just fear. I came home and told my husband...
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Satans goal is to ruin the family and one of his strongest tools is technology. He wants us to be scared, distracted, addicted, and unaware. But we can’t protect our families by running scared or blindly partaking. We have to remember technology is a double edged sword with the power to do both good and bad in our lives. It all depends on how we wield it. What God needs is us to become people who are more knowledgeable, more prepared, more vigilant, more present, and more aware about how technology affects us. People who are ready to teach and empower and protect our families. People He can trust to use technology as way to light the world. We can do this. He is counting on us and our families are counting us 💛
People come and go like waves of the ocean, but the true ones stick. Like an octopus to your face 💛🐙🌊 #happyhalloween #spooktacular #underthesea
We’ve got no troubles
Life is the bubbles
Under the sea 🐙🐡🦀🐟💛
#happyhalloween

Abbey Kyhl

It may have all started with me, but I believe things got truly amazing when we became a team. Most everyone would say I am the “mom boss” around here. I feel so blessed to be in this moment. And I look forward to hearing all about your love story, whatever chapter you may be on, whether its being a bride, a new mommy, or just celebrating life as love grows.


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They say it better than we ever could..

For a bride, weddings are mostly just trusting that everything will go as planned and that people will come through for you. The entire experience can obviously be a bit stressful and taxing. However, Abbey Kyhl and Bianca Madsen made my wedding experiences dreamlike. My decision to chose AK Studio & Design was easy because both of my brother’s used Abbey for their weddings. I knew she was great but I had no idea how wonderful she would be through all the wedding planning. Even before our engagement photos Abbey and I were texting back and forth about reception venues, florists, and cakes. She knows the Utah wedding space inside and out and every suggestion she gave me was perfect. Our engagement shoot was flawless and Abbey made us feel relaxed and comfortable enough to be ourselves in front of the camera. Our bridal shoot was even more perfect because Abbey and Bianca worked together to capture every detail. I’ve never seen a more dynamic duo than Abbey and Bianca – their energies feed off of one another and make the perfect environment for a photo-shoot. They are both incredibly talented and I felt lucky to have both of them at my bridal shoot and my reception. I never had to worry about either Bianca or Abbey missing an important moment because they were always there and always consulting me on what I wanted captured. The pictures they took and edited for me will forever be my favorite memories of my wedding!
Having Abbey be apart of our wedding was one of the best decisions we made. Not only is she organized and can run a full day of wedding photography flawlessly, she is was also so fun to work with!! Abbey took the time to get to know us, and the vision we had for our wedding. Not one detail was left undone. I like Zeke's description of working with Abbey best I think, :) " Having Abbey around was like having my mom around! On the morning of the wedding, when I got out of the shower to get ready, Abbey already had my tux, shoes, socks, and everything I needed all laid out for me! She eliminated so much stress of the day for us. She was so much more than our photographer." Abbey and her team work so well together, and each of them were easy going, professional and charismatic. We feel lucky to have landed such an awesome team for our big day! Thank you so much!!
When we got engaged, one of the first things I wanted to focus on was choosing an amazing photographer. When we first met Abbey, she connected with us immediately and saw the vision we wanted! She was spunky, fun and outgoing.When you're not thinking she is watching, she will take the most treasured candids. She has a way of showing true love through the camera! She let us be ourselves. She truly cares about each photo by getting the perfect lighting and location. She cares about making everyone feel comfortable, while having fun and laughing along the way. She cares about every detail. She cares about communication throughout the process. She takes time to get your love story. She will do whatever it takes to be positive the bride and groom are satisfied. She is there for you and your fiance to make sure you feel stress-free knowing your photos will turn out beautiful. 
Abbey Kyhl... where to even begin? She is a ray of sunshine, a breath of fresh air, and a level head amidst the chaos! I first stalked her blog and immediately fell in love. What talent! I loved her photographs, they expressed so much emotion. It is so important to feel comfortable with your photographer, you don't want to look forced in your photos! Comfort was not even a question the moment I met Abbey, she truly is a people person! I could tell she had a strong desire to connect with Carter and I, and to become our friend. I felt all nerves melt away, and I knew we were in good hands. I felt so relaxed at our shoots and on my wedding day knowing that Abbey would take stunning photos of the moments I wanted to remember most. She is an absolute joy to work with and you will come away from your sessions with not only out-of-this-world photographs, but with a new friend! Honestly, I could go on forever about Abbey, but if you take away one thing from reading this, it should be that you will never regret having Abbey capture the special moments in your life.
Abbey was just as important to me as my bridesmaids! When it comes to weddings she has basically become part of the family! When we talk about weddings everyone knows Abbey will be involved! Not only is she extremely talented with photography, but she is an amazing business woman and has the perfect balance of being professional and relatable. She gave helpful advice on planning the day, she was flexible throughout the whole set of events, she was reliable, but most of all she was FUN! There are a couple guys in my family who don’t like pictures. It made a world of difference to have Abbey there because she makes it so much fun, even the guys were relaxed and enjoyed it! It does wonders for your pictures when the photographer is able to connect with people so they look their most natural in the photos. And that is exactly why I chose Abbey! I feel like my pictures perfectly captured WHO we are as people and not just a wedding we planned. That means everything to me!
When it comes to picking a photographer, it is always a no brainer to pick Abbey. She has been there to capture my engagements, bridals, wedding day, and even pictures of my newborn. I wanted her to take our newborn pictures and didn't hesitate for one minute even though before she has primarily been a wedding photographer. I knew she would do the best job making us feel comfortable and capturing the pictures I would cherish forever. There's something so special about having a photographer there for all of the most important parts of your life. Abbey has a way of feeling more like family than a photographer. Plus- my husband doesn't really like getting family pictures taken and he has never once complained when it's Abbey taking them. And that alone worth it to book Abbey in my book! She is just the best!
I loved working with Abbey because she just made us feel comfortable. I remember when we were arriving for our engagements Chase was so nervous because he hates taking pictures, but Abbey made it such a casual, fun experience for him. I was also impressed on our wedding day that Abbey was able to just get things done. Having a large family on both sides can be hard to get all the group photos you want, but she just took control and got it done so fast, and the pictures still looked so so amazing! Abbey definitely has a way of capturing beautiful moments, and making them even more beautiful than you remembered.
Abbey is absolutely amazing! My husband and I were both nervous, but Abbey made it so easy! She helped us feel comfortable and gave us  direction so we could feel more natural in front of the camera. It really felt like we were just hanging out with a friend.We both have large families and I have seen family pictures outside of the temple take a really long time with other photographers. Abbey had no fear about working with the large group and took control comfortably and quickly. She knew the pictures I wanted and others that she knew I would want, and got it done efficiently without making it feel rushed. Abbey was also really helpful during the whole event and went above and beyond the responsibilities of a photographer in many ways. She helped me throughout the entire night and was there to keep me on track with the timeline I wanted. I can’t say enough about Abbey. She is so friendly, efficient, kind, talented, and willing to help in any way she can.  The whole AK Studio & Design team was the same. I never felt like a burden when I had questions and I always felt important when I contacted them. They were always so willing to help in any way they could. We gained some friends and can’t wait to keep going back as our family grows!
We love Abbey! Working with her was the absolute best decision we made.  Planning a wedding can be overwhelming, but Abbey truly was our saving grace! She took the time to organize and plan each detail to know what was important to us.  On such a whirlwind day, Abbey was so much more than our wedding photographer.  She ensured the flow and organization of the day so each minute was as smooth as possible....Abbey was by far the MVP of our wedding! Most importantly, we love our photos! Ryan and I were both nervous and reserved in front of a camera, but she helped us relax and we truly enjoyed every session with her. Abbey has a gift of capturing images that show the emotion we felt on our magical day.  We can't thank her enough for those beautiful moments we can now cherish forever.
Abbey is everything I wanted in a Wedding photographer & became my everything photographer!! She never fails to capture everything so perfectly! I love knowing my pictures will come back amazing & couldn't imagine having anyone else. I always look forward to our next session!
The wedding day was amazing for us! We had so many guests come up to us and say, "Who is your photographer? She is great! She is so good at getting everyone's attention and she is hilarious!" We loved that Abbey was an entertainer to our guests and captured ALL of our day. It has been a blast going back and reliving our day through the pictures she captured. Seriously, we LOVE our pictures. They are classic and will stay in style for many years to come.
Abbey was there from the beginning to end! She was able to see my vision for what I wanted and totally made it happen! Both me and my husband loved working with her because she was so fun to shoot with and helped us act completely natural and relaxed.
I've known Abbey since I was a freshman in high school and always knew I wanted her to photograph my wedding. She is such a genuine person, and makes taking photos a breeze. My husband, who doesn't necessarily LOVE pictures, really appreciated her coaching to make sure he was looking his best....because let's face it, no one wants to look bad in a photo, and Abbey makes sure that doesn't happen. I also love her ability to catch all those perfect moments between you and your favorite people so beautifully on camera. When I got my photos back from our wedding, all my thoughts and feelings about having Abbey be apart of our wedding were confirmed. She is the best of the best, and I couldn't have picked a more perfect photographer.
We first met Abbey when she did our engagements, bridals, and wedding photos four years ago; we became instant friends. It never ceases to amaze me how she can so effortlessly capture such precious moments in time. Thanks to her dedication for perfection, I now have many wonderfully captured memories that I will cherish for a lifetime.
I was so nervous before our engagements, because I am always so self conscious in front of the camera, but Abbey was great at helping us focus more on enjoying each other and just having fun than focusing on the actual picture taking. We got our first session images back and we were beyond pleased. They were perfect! And so many options! We had a hard time picking favorites because so many were wonderful. What we worried and stressed about for weeks turned out to be so great even though we didn't expect that because of our own issues. From there we had full confidence that Abbey would deliver more than we expected. She isn't only great at taking photos, but also was so helpful with keeping to the schedule we had planned and making sure we got everything we wanted and more. Though she was out of our price range, it was more than worth it to have such beautiful images that will last a lifetime. And it was truly a much better experience than I ever imagined. We love Abbey! Trenten is convinced we'll be hanging out  at Lagoon and Disneyland in the future with her :)
I loved working with Abbey!  I  appreciated that she took time from the very beginning to get to know us.  Even at our first meeting, she was very personable and helpful.  She asked great questions that helped me think about my expectations for the wedding photography.  She thoroughly answered all questions I had about how the wedding session.  It made my wedding day less stressful to know I was in good hands. Abbey was so great about making a schedule with us.  Trent and I wanted to start our wedding in the later afternoon.  This made our photography schedule really tight between our wedding and reception.  On our wedding day, Abbey Kyhl was so helpful in all the chaos.  She got the pictures that we wanted to save the memory of our special day.  I have such a large family that it can be tricky to get everyone’s attention and keep things moving smoothly but Abbey was prepared with the knowledge of the pictures I really wanted and she was so kind and fun through the whole process.  I had several friends and family member mention how impressed they felt with our photographer.   I  love each photo from my wedding.  I really appreciate the impressive skill and emotions that shine through our faces. I happily recommend Abbey to anyone!
Abbey Kyhl is the way to go no doubt. I value talent and Abbey is exactly that. She is very personable and fun to work with. She takes stress off the brides' shoulders and is much more than a photographer, but a friend!
I knew I wanted family pictures after our newborn arrived, and I was so excited to know that Abbey had an beautiful indoor studio where my kids, especially my newborn would be warm and comfortable. Family pictures can feel like such a daunting task with kids, especially when they are little. Within minutes of our session Abbey, put my mind at ease, she was so great with my kids and had them laughing. She is such a talented photographer. She was able to capture such precious moments of my little ones, their personalities show through in every photo. I am so happy with how they turned out.
Abbey is a dream! I can honestly say that there is no one else I would have rather shared this special time in my life with. Hiring her to shoot our wedding was hands down the best decision we have made. She is so much more than an amazing wedding photographer. She made sure everything was perfect and captured every little thing down to the last detail! All of our photos were absolutely stunning and she captured everything I could have ever imagined. I have gained a lifelong friend and I am so incredibly thankful that I had the privilege of working with her. I cannot recommend her enough! She is honestly, my absolute favorite!
Working with Abbey was fun, laid-back, and exciting all at the same time! My favorite part about working with Abbey was knowing that I was going to love the images she would capture. Her talent for making a connection with brides on a personal level and photographing beautifully makes her brand incredibly unique. Looking back through our wedding photos is like re-living our special day and it is priceless. I will recommend her to all future brides I come into contact with because I can trust that they will love their photos as much as I love mine.
I loved having Abbey as our photographer! In every session she made us feel so comfortable, so we were able to get shots that really showed who we were as a couple. And her edits are beautiful! We were so happy we chose someone who was able to capture every detail of our wedding day with such talent. The photos are priceless. If we had to do it over again, we would choose Abbey in a second!
I always dread getting my picture taken because I'm the worst at posing. I always feel awkward trying to look natural! Abbey was able to guide me with simple suggestions for shifting my weight, moving my head oh so slightly, or positioning my hands just so. It made all the difference! She also captured many photos that I actually liked, which I usually don't, in a very short amount of time. Professional and efficient...that's my kind of photo shoot!
We loved working with Abbey! My fiance was not looking forward to taking pictures, but she made it so fun and he really enjoyed our sessions with her! She took the time to figure out what style I was imagining, looked through my Pinterest wedding boards and got every photo I wanted! I love her clean photography style, and I love how our wedding photos will look timeless for years to come. After the wedding day, we got several comments from friends and relatives about how impressed they were with how she handled the wedding day. I've heard of group pictures being really stressful with so many people at the temple, but I was never stressed! She was organized, orderly, and knew the most efficient ways to get all of the group pictures done quickly without confusion. Thank you so much for the wonderful experience!
These ladies know what they are doing. It was so easy from start to finish.  We felt very comfortable with Abbey.  She is so likable and gets the job done! She has a great eye and attention to detail! Thank you so much!
From all the wedding advice I received upon my engagement the best by far was to be selective about your wedding photographer. While some things only last for the 'big day' your pictures will last forever. My husband and I could not have been more thrilled working with Abbey and the memories we received. She was a blast to work with and set our minds at ease during stressful moments. We knew we could count on her. We had some newly blended families at our wedding and we were so impressed with Abbey and the time she took before hand to know who was who and not make anything awkward. We love her and can't wait to work with her again!
I love Abbey's style of photography - so full of light and happy couples! So when she was available for my wedding, I was so excited! I was very impressed by how organized she was from the beginning to the end, and how she took the time to make sure we were prepared for pictures so everything would run smoothly. She was great to work with and even made it enjoyable for my husband, who doesn't love pictures. Our engagements and bridals turned out beautifully. On our wedding day, it rained and snowed hard. Abbey got everyone in and out of pictures quickly. She let me borrow her gloves and umbrella, and even had her husband pull up our car for us after so that we wouldn't have to walk to it in the rain. At the reception, she helped make sure we got to each activity in a timely manner, and captured them all. I love how she takes beautiful pictures to capture your best memories, but she is so much more than just a photographer.
When I was trying to decide on a wedding photographer, all I had to do was look at Abbey's pictures to know that there was something special about her. As the day of our first shoot approached, I was nervous because I'm not an experienced picture taker and I didn't want that to show. My worrying was pointless though! Abbey has an incredible gift of making you feel so comfortable and beautiful while she's working. Our pictures captured our true relationship because it was so easy to instantly open up to her. That's the magic behind Abbey's talent. When she takes a picture, she captures the emotion behind it. That is a priceless gift and I will forever be grateful to Abbey for giving us such clear memories of how we felt before and during our wedding, not just the things we did. She is incredible!
I have used Abbey as my photographer for 10 years and I love every session more than the last. I love that my photos are both current and timeless. Abbey makes the sessions seem stress free, but her attention to detail is unparalleled.
Wow, Abbey did it again! And to be honest, I'm not surprised at all. I have been using Abbey as my photographer since I got married, 4 years ago. I am NEVER disappointed in her, her company, or the quality of the pictures. I absolutely love that she offers mini-sessions. My last 3 photo-shoots (Newborn pictures, my family pictures, and my in-law family pictures) have all been mini-shoots and all of them turned out wonderfully! It was the perfect amount of time; I mean lets be honest, husbands & kids do not do well on picture day! Abbey is great about managing her time and getting the job done! Basically, all I need to say is, HIRE ABBEY! You will not be disappointed and I can promise you that you'll hire her again.
Abbey and her team are so organized and were so attentive to how I envisioned my photos to turn out.  Abbey made it very easy to be ourselves in front of the camera. On top of it, the editing is beautiful. Thank you! We love our pictures so much.
Abbey was the best photographer we’ve ever had!  It was such a treat to have her take our family pictures! She made a normally stressful day so fun! We will definitely have her take our pictures again!
I absolutely love the laid back nature of our family photos and how comfortable Abbey made us feel. Nothing about our photos came back looking still or posed and I am so excited about every image! I was so nervous that our little ones wouldn't cooperate but Abbey used the rambunctious energy to her advantage and captured their personalities perfectly. I was able to totally relax and let my toddler participate when he felt like it and as a result we got more amazing images than I ever expected.


He’s getting it.
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This week we had parent teacher conferences. Sixth graders prepare power point presentations to show off all the things they are learning and accomplishing at school.
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They also have slides where they share about themselves and things they love, are interested in, and are important for them.
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He came to a slide that said, “The most important thing I want to do this year.”
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It could have been get good grades. It could have been win the spelling bee. It could have been to win fantasy football. It could have been to be the best pitcher on his baseball team. It could have been anything.
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His said: @dogood.bekind, make a difference.
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Of course, my momma heart swelled with pride for him. And I realized in that moment that he’s getting it.
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Earlier this year, I encouraged him to put a @dogood.bekind sticker on his binder. A daily reminder to @bethenicekid.
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To reach out to others. Make others feel included. To let kindness be his trademark. And he’s getting it.
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I look at this boy and can’t believe who he is becoming. When he was just little I felt prompted as a mother to make kindness and brotherly love something that embodies who he is. In some ways it comes so naturally to him. In others he’s making the effort. But he’s getting it.
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And he isn’t just getting it. He’s setting an example to those around him. I see his influence in our family when he helps when he doesn’t want to. When he plays with his little sister and loves on her. When he doesn’t even think twice about letting his little brother tag along. In his friend group when he thinks of others, let’s them choose, and includes everyone. In his young men’s group when he reaches out to those who might feel like they don’t fit in. To the widows in our neighborhood when he makes an effort to visit with them. On his baseball team, when he cheers them on and is happy for their successes.
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He’s getting it. Life is full of so many things that don’t matter. But it’s also full of so many things that do. He doesn’t know it but he’s building a legacy of friendship and kindness.
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Loving others, being the nice kid, truly will be his trademark. 💛
I’m heading to AZ tomorrow to speak at a conference. When I was saying goodnight to her tonight I asked her if she was going to miss me while I’m gone.
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“Yes momma, will you miss me while I’m still here?”
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It feels funny to admit, but I miss her even when she’s in the other room for too long. Or when she goes to school each day. She is my little sidekick. My little best friend. The biggest blessing I never knew I wanted. And so much more. She wears me out more than anyone in my life and yet I can’t get enough of her.
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I hope whether I’m there and she’s here or she’s there and I’m here that we will always miss each other and hurry to be back together. #mommasgirl #ilikemebetterwhenimwithyou #minime
Tomorrow I’m speaking at @pinnersconf!
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It’s been so fun this year speaking across the nation about technology and it’s affect on our families.
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My goal is always to make sure people walk away empowered with ideas to implement. There are so many presentations out there meant to scare us away from technology. I just don’t think that is the answer to this issue.
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We can’t learn and grow if we are scared. We can’t make a difference if we are scared. We can’t share important truths and messages if we are scared.
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What we need to be is prepared and vigilant and present in what is happening around us and how that affects the individual members of our family.
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Technology is not the problem. Social media is not the problem. Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook...they are not the problem.
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WE ARE THE PROBLEM!
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We live in a digital world and that isn’t going to change. We have to take responsibility and we have to prepare ourselves and our families. It isn’t technology that is going to ruin our lives or our families. But HOW we use it definitely could. But it all comes back to us. The choices we make and the habits we cultivate.
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A few weeks ago, I sat in a presentation about some of the darker sides of technology. I watched these mothers and their faces as they learned about things they had no idea were going on. The presentation was meant to terrify, which it did. But then that was it. No tips. No strategies. Just fear. I came home and told my husband...
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Satans goal is to ruin the family and one of his strongest tools is technology. He wants us to be scared, distracted, addicted, and unaware. But we can’t protect our families by running scared or blindly partaking. We have to remember technology is a double edged sword with the power to do both good and bad in our lives. It all depends on how we wield it. What God needs is us to become people who are more knowledgeable, more prepared, more vigilant, more present, and more aware about how technology affects us. People who are ready to teach and empower and protect our families. People He can trust to use technology as way to light the world. We can do this. He is counting on us and our families are counting us 💛
People come and go like waves of the ocean, but the true ones stick. Like an octopus to your face 💛🐙🌊 #happyhalloween #spooktacular #underthesea
We’ve got no troubles
Life is the bubbles
Under the sea 🐙🐡🦀🐟💛
#happyhalloween
Dropping this guy off at baseball practice tonight just as @nsync’s“bye-bye-bye” came on.
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So what did I do?
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The only possible thing...
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I rolled down all the windows, blasted the radio, and did all the dance moves I could remember as he ran away as fast as he could.
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Winning guys, I’m winning at #motherhood 👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻
Only one week until Halloween! Still love our Alice and Wonderland theme from last year...but this year...oh this year...we have definitely upped our game 🙌🏻😂 Can’t wait!
Hey there everyone! 💛💛💛 Every day lately I find myself stumbling across things that I think to myself,
“We were not born to hustle.”
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I spoke at a conference today about being more intentional with our time. I shared how I drastically cut my working time in my business and still found success.
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When I was done, one of the attendees asked me, “After you’re done working each day and have the rest of your day for other things in life have you ever felt like you're being lazy or unproductive? When I'm not working, I feel like I'm slacking off and am not working as hard as so-and-so. How do you combat those feelings with the constant expectation of the hustle?”
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The answer was so passionate in my heart that I almost shouted it out the way Tom Cruise did when he jumped on Oprah’s couch.
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I told her, “We were not put on this earth to hustle. We were put on this earth to love each other and to serve each other.”
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When our work time becomes #lessbutbetter and we use our “free” time to serve others and God our life so easily becomes full. Full of purpose in a way the “hustle” could never achieve.
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I talked earlier this week about watching women who were distracted and who wore “busy” as a badge of honor and what a much needed reality check that has brought to my life and my desire to be more present.
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I feel that same way about the “hustle” we as women so easily find ourselves in. We as women are so empowered which gives us the confidence to go out into the world and chase our dreams and share our talents...which we should do!
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But do we let our desire to be a #ladyboss overshadow our importance as a mother? As a wife? As a daughter of God? As a shepherd and minister?
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I know there have been far too many times in my life when my ambition has clouded my judgment. When I’ve pursued things that had no true long term value at the expense of things that did.
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I joked with a friend recently that there are so many of us women who need a #healingfromthehustle.
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We need peace. We need perspective. We need space in our lives to be still and slow down so we can be impressed upon and guided. We need to make goals with an eternal value and then make choices that match up with those goals. We need to make sure that “our thing” doesn’t come at the expense of the main things.
I had to share a little something that is happening since I started the #bookofmormonchallenge. Yesterday, I was reading and my husband asked me if I really had time to “study” in the way that I am. I’m following the Institute manual and reading along with the Book Of Mormon Made Easier books and it takes me 2-3 hours each day. The reality of life is I really don’t have time. I have three kids, two businesses, clients and deadlines and all sorts of other things. But I made the commitment to do it, to really study and something amazing is happening. I made the commitment and God is making the time. Somehow projects that should be taking much longer are flying by. Something that should have taken me a full week of intense focus took me only two days. I was talking with @biancamadsen_ and we were actually in shock at how quickly this monster project we are working on is getting done and how much less stressful it has been compared to past projects. It doesn’t even make sense. Following God can be like that sometimes. We don’t always see what will come to us when we make time for Him and when we follow the instructions we have been given but that obedience can make the impossible happen. And also the best part of the whole thing is that my mind is being blown by everything I’m reading! So all around scripture reading for the win 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
THANK YOU 💛 THANK YOU 💛 THANK YOU
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I just want to thank all of you out there who gave me so much love over my post earlier today. It was a bit scary to put those feelings out in the world and you all were just amazing. Thank so much to everyone who commented and liked and even more thank you to those who shared. It was such a #happyday!!! You’re all the best!
Months ago, when I was in the midst of my own faith trial, a friend said something to me that I have thought about so much since. She said,
Are you still hanging in there for our service challenge? I have to admit, I have been less than stellar in posting about all the things that have been happening around me as I have been trying to serve. And there have been plenty of times when things haven't gone as I had hoped or planned. Times when I didn't rise to the occasion. But I started to realize, that ministering, serving others, its a learning process. And it isn't going to be perfect. But I look at how my life has grown and blossomed in these last sixty-five days and I am so happy with all that is happening around me. I have created deeper friendships and connections, our kids are learning the importance of serving others, and I feel a joy and peace in my life that I needed. I am learning the importance of ministering and simple service to those around us. Its not too late to join us (our free guide is in the link in my profile). And I would love to hear how participating in the challenge has gone for you! #lds #latterdaysaint #100dayservicechallenge #sharegoodness
Do you ever just feel like a huge loser? 🙋🏼‍♀️
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I’ve had some situations this year where I have tried to help someone in someway or friend certain people and I just get the cold shoulder, the brush off, the passive aggressive “no thanks”.
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Of course, I then find myself in the downward spiral of wondering why? Why don’t they want my help? Why don’t they want to be friends? What is wrong with me that makes me not good enough to be in their circle? Why am I not included?
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I was writing last night and I came across the quote from R.H. Sin that says “I hope you learn to let go of all the things not meant for you.”
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I think truthfully and painfully sometimes that applies to people.
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We aren’t meant for everyone. Could you imagine how chaotic and noisy and distracting our lives would be if we stayed friends or became friends with every person that ever crosses our path? We wouldn’t have time for anything that mattered.
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I love the book Essentialism by @gregorymckeown and his entire idea of “Less, But Better.” And I’m starting to realize that can also in some ways apply to people. When we have fewer people in our lives we are able to develop stronger, closer, more impactful relationships. And ultimately our lives become more rich. Quality over quantity.
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Now don’t get me wrong, I think there are better ways to preserve our circle and kinder ways to respond and really we should show love and kindness to everyone. But just because we should always be friendly, doesn’t mean we have to be best friends.
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#peptalkstomyself
One of the questions that I was seeking an answer to in #generalconference was what should be the direction that She That Seeks should go? What was our purpose? For months we have been trying to figure out what we were doing and where we were going and how we could bring this project to life.

Within the first 30 minutes I received the answer. 
She That Seeks needs to be here to enlighten women with perspective and power to be present and prepared for their families. And as the next two days unfolded, I understood why.

Throughout general conference, there were so many revelations shared with the women of our church. Home centered spirituality supported by the Church. The two-hour block and the introduction of the new Come Follow Me curriculum for families. Then in the womens session it became very clear that we as mothers need to step up to guide this nurturing and this teaching in our homes. Henry B. Eyring reminded us that in the Proclamation To The Family it tells mothers that this is our primary responsibility.

As I was listening I felt so empowered and also so overwhelmed. Would I be enough? Do I know enough? Will I be able to do this? Will I measure up? 
I watched online as many other women and mothers expressed similar concerns and realized that this was what She That Seeks needed to be. A guide by the side. A hand to help. A place to get answers and guidance. A resource for fulfilling this sacred work. 
Alone it may be too much to bear, but together we can do it. I am so excited for what is unfolding in She That Seeks and I can't wait to share so many things with you!

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We are starting today with our study and discussion, if you want to join us the main discussion will be happening in the She That Seeks Facebook group. The link is in my profile. I am so excited to hear all the things that everyone shares. 💛💛💛
How many of you have joined President Nelsons challenge to read The Book of Mormon by the end of the year?

I have been wanting to do this for awhile now already and was excited to have this nudge to get started. I just got my @lineuponline journaling edition of #thebookofmormon and it felt like the perfect time to put it to use.

As I was beginning my reading, I felt really strongly that I didn't just want to read, I wanted to study.

So I have decided to follow the chapter layout of The Book of Mormon student manual (got it from @deseretbook for less than $5) and to read with The Book Of Mormon Made Easier books by David J. Ridges. They make it like having a true scriptorian reading along with you.

Do you want to join me? 
There are 56 chapters of the student manual and 75 days left in the year (which means you can have 19 free days in case life happens). I am going to be posting daily in the She That Seeks facebook group my thoughts and hope others will share their thoughts as well! The link to the facebook group is in my profile if you want to join us!